Saturday, April 2, 2011

Nurses Grieve Too

I found this video link on a nurses blog. I was shocked at the first scene. It is filmed at the hospital where Jacob was born. The first scene is the hallway where I waited for the ultrasound to confirm whether or not he was alive. There is a woman in a purple shirt leaning on the wall. That is where I stood.
The hallway in front of her is the hallway that leads to the ultrasound rooms. The hallway where the man in white is walking goes to the doors that lead into Labour and Delivery.

I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach when I saw this first scene and I realized it was filmed at that hospital and my heart beat fast for an hour afterwards.

I love this video though. I love knowing that nurses are touched by our losses too.

http://vimeo.com/18714302

9 comments:

Elaine said...

I was lucky to have two really good nurses when I was in having Blaine. The first one had lost 6 babies before having a healthy son. She was so calm when she was telling me about it I could tell she's repeated her story to a hundred other women. She had that matter of factness that only we have. I unfortunately can't remember her name. The second was Susan. She was there when Blaine delivered. She came in after and gave me and my husband a big hug and told us how sorry she was and I could tell she meant it. I often hope and wonder if she was the one who took his little body down to the lab. The nurses at the hospital we go to are excellent, so caring and so professional.

Glo said...

Thank you for sharing that.

LauraJane said...

That's beautiful. :)

Sherri said...

thanks as well...

Emily said...

What was really mind boggling for me was that not only was this filmed at MSH where I delivered Aidan (and will likely deliver Acorn), but I knew one of the nurses, Leigh, in the video. She was a nurse I worked with during a study I did while in nursing school. And here I am, years later, not only a patient of the hospital where she works, but a subject of a video she's in and possibly about to join the terrible club of 'multiple loss'. It's also weird that I could have been a participant in that video, having worked with families whose babies have died. Prior to Aidan's death I probably was one of those 'scared young nurses' who was afraid to have to 'deal' with families that were experiencing a loss. If I'm ever strong enough, maybe I'll do it again some day. I think I'll be a better nurse for it.

Did you check out the other video on the list above it? It's more from a family perspective about incorporating a dead child in to the history of the family. It's just as good.

Olivia's Mom said...

Thanks for posting this. It made me think back to the wonderful nurses that we had...

Drew's Parents said...

Wow...Thank you for sharing this! I bet it did take your breath away and made you think back to your delivery! I often think about the impact Drew's delivery had on one of our nurses. Her very real and emotional response meant so much to me.

Sheri said...

Wow, thanks for sharing. I have to admit that without the nurses and doctors at Mt Sinai, we couldn't have made it through Olivia's birth. They were an amazing support, even though I'm sure it was a difficult situation for them too.

crystal theresa said...

thank you for sharing this video. i can't even imagine what it must have been like to see that hospital.

i think about my nurses a lot and am so thankful for their care. i had never thought about how difficult it must be for them to care for all of these families. it's comforting to know, though, that they care and that our babies mean something to them.