Saturday, March 5, 2011

Haircut...and a chance to mention Jacob

I got a long overdue haircut today.


The hairdresser was really talkative and I wondered if she would ask if I have any kids. She did eventually and I said that I have a son who passed away. She said "pardon me?", wondering if she heard right, so I said it again and said that it happened 9 months ago and he was stillborn. She was nice, said how sorry she was and how hard it must have been. I said thanks and that it has been really hard. Then I asked if she has kids since I could tell that she didn't know what to say next. I love that she didn't say any of the bad things people it must have happened for a reason.

She said that I have a lot of new hair growing - baby hair, she called it. I told her that alot of my hair fell out after I had the baby so it's nice that it is growing back.

When she was drying my hair, I scratched my cheek and she asked if I was OK. I think she wondered if she had upset me by asking and I was crying (which she didn't...I liked it). I also have a bit of a cold, so my eyes just look a little red in general.

As I was getting up from the chair, she leaned over and said that she really hopes that everything goes well for me and wished me all the best.

I had my hair cut at the same place when I was pregnant with Jacob. I don't remember exactly when it was, but the nausea wasn't so bad so it was probably in late April. As I was sitting there, I realized that I was sitting in the same chair as that time, but had a different hairdresser. The last time I had been in that chair, I was talking about being pregnant and when he was due. The happy things.
This was only the second time since I had Jacob that I've been asked if I have kids and both times the person who asked was sympathetic and said nice things. I may have scared them both off from asking anyone if they have kids again though.


Angela said...

You look great! I love having my hair cut and styled. It always makes me feel better. I'm glad you had the opportunity to tell your hair dresser about Jacob, and that she was receptive and kind.

Melissa said...

The hair looks great! You needed a little pampering :). It was great that you were able to talk about Jacob. It's always a good feeling <3

cullensblessings said...

You look beautiful in both pictures... I am glad you got some time to treat yourself.
I think you handled the question quite beautifully.. it is always difficult to face the reactions of others, especially when we have no idea what might come out of their mouths.
I am thinking of you and I truly appreciate the support you have offered to me.. love and light... L

Drew's Parents said...

You look beautiful! <3 I am glad that you were able to go to your appointment and that you were able to talk about Jacob! I am so happy that she was respectful and kind. Sending you big hugs!

Jill said...

So happy she was sympathetic! It makes all the difference.

Monica said...

Yeah, too bad they all can't be trained on being careful how that question is asked. Good job speaking the truth about Jacob. I'm glad she was compassionate about it.

Becky said...

Oh I am so happy you were comfortable enough to speak about your Jacob with her and she reacted so well. Since losing Liam I haven't been asked by anyone if I have any children. I love to talk about him but worried of the reaction I might get from people.
Cute haircut

Elaine said...

I have a hard time asking people that question too because I always think "what if they're a BLM" and I don't want to make them uncomfortable. I know I hate the kids questions now.
Nice haircut! You look ready for spring now