The hairdresser was really talkative and I wondered if she would ask if I have any kids. She did eventually and I said that I have a son who passed away. She said "pardon me?", wondering if she heard right, so I said it again and said that it happened 9 months ago and he was stillborn. She was nice, said how sorry she was and how hard it must have been. I said thanks and that it has been really hard. Then I asked if she has kids since I could tell that she didn't know what to say next. I love that she didn't say any of the bad things people do....like it must have happened for a reason.
She said that I have a lot of new hair growing - baby hair, she called it. I told her that alot of my hair fell out after I had the baby so it's nice that it is growing back.
When she was drying my hair, I scratched my cheek and she asked if I was OK. I think she wondered if she had upset me by asking and I was crying (which she didn't...I liked it). I also have a bit of a cold, so my eyes just look a little red in general.
As I was getting up from the chair, she leaned over and said that she really hopes that everything goes well for me and wished me all the best.
I had my hair cut at the same place when I was pregnant with Jacob. I don't remember exactly when it was, but the nausea wasn't so bad so it was probably in late April. As I was sitting there, I realized that I was sitting in the same chair as that time, but had a different hairdresser. The last time I had been in that chair, I was talking about being pregnant and when he was due. The happy things.
This was only the second time since I had Jacob that I've been asked if I have kids and both times the person who asked was sympathetic and said nice things. I may have scared them both off from asking anyone if they have kids again though.