Sent it off to my DH, he said it is a good representation of how it is for men.
I knew it was doubly hard for them, becasue everyone is so worried about the mom, but it gave me the nudge I needed to talk with him about his grief.
He said the social aspect is really true. The clap on his back, with no words about Xavier and no opportunity to talk about him is so very true and frustrating.
Thanks for sharing this. My DH has always put up a brave front and been unfailingly optimistic with me. I used to be a bit bothered, wondering if he really cared.
Then one day, he made a comment to me about a colleague of his who had made a flippant remark about how easy it was to have babies. Although he held his tongue to his co-worker, he let loose a bunch of stuff to me. The depth and bitterness of his pain shocked me - he had never, ever let on he had been feeling that way.
I know my DH has suffered terribly. And I think fathers are definitely overlooked when a baby dies.
Thank you for sharing this! I am going to send it to Josh! This blog isn't updated often, but I find it helpful when it is! http://fathersgrievinginfantloss.blogspot.com/
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Great article. Thanks for sharing.
Sent it off to my DH, he said it is a good representation of how it is for men.
I knew it was doubly hard for them, becasue everyone is so worried about the mom, but it gave me the nudge I needed to talk with him about his grief.
He said the social aspect is really true. The clap on his back, with no words about Xavier and no opportunity to talk about him is so very true and frustrating.
Thanks for sharing this. My DH has always put up a brave front and been unfailingly optimistic with me. I used to be a bit bothered, wondering if he really cared.
Then one day, he made a comment to me about a colleague of his who had made a flippant remark about how easy it was to have babies. Although he held his tongue to his co-worker, he let loose a bunch of stuff to me. The depth and bitterness of his pain shocked me - he had never, ever let on he had been feeling that way.
I know my DH has suffered terribly. And I think fathers are definitely overlooked when a baby dies.
Thank you for sharing this! I am going to send it to Josh!
This blog isn't updated often, but I find it helpful when it is! http://fathersgrievinginfantloss.blogspot.com/
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