There is a quote from this article that I find particularly striking:
With a stillborn baby, there is no past to be mourned – which is another loss in itself – but there are the endless, unfulfilled possibilities of the future that we need, somehow, to make our peace with.
Although, I do feel like there is a past to be mourned. Jacob lived and then he died. Although he never took a breath of air and he only lived inside me, he still lived and, therefore, has a past.